The Dangers Of Falling & Being In Love

I’m sure you’ve been in at least one relationship where the word love was used. You believed wholeheartedly you were with the love of your life and deeply in love with them. Then, judgement day came and you divorced, separated or broke up. Even though you might have gotten over the pain, sometimes you ask yourself the question that still lingers years later; “Where did we go wrong......we were in love…….”. Now I know there are various reasons why many couples break up; infidelity, lying, abusive relationship, lack of communication etc. But, ask yourself this question, should I be falling in love with my partner? Well, let me give you the answer so you don’t hurt your head……NO, you should not be falling in love with your partner. You might want to pose the question; "Why shouldn’t I fall in love? Isn’t that what people do?" You’re absolutely correct, that is what people do and you see the current state of relationships. Whether it’s someone you personally know or society as a whole, successful relationships are at an all time low. Marriage rates are down, divorce rates are high, many single parent homes. Many of those examples are by-products of individuals who fell in love. Ask yourself this question, when it is ever good to fall? Here’s the definition for the word fall, out of the Merriam-Webster dictionary:

fall verb

\ ˈfȯl

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fell\ ˈfel

\; fallen\ ˈfȯ-​lən

\; falling

Definition of fall

(Entry 1 of 3)

intransitive verb

1a : to descend freely by the force of gravity An apple fell from the tree.

b : to hang freely her hair falls over her shoulders

c : to drop oneself to a lower position fell to his knees

d : to come or go as if by falling darkness falls early in the winter

2 : to become born —usually used of lambs

3a : to become lower in degree or level the temperature fell 10°

b : to drop in pitch or volume their voices fell to a whisper

c : issue sense 1a wisdom that fell from his lips

d : to become lowered her eyes fell

4a : to leave an erect position suddenly and involuntarily slipped and fell on the ice

b : to enter as if unawares : stumble, stray fell into error We fell into a trap.

c : to drop down wounded or dead especially : to die in battle Many men fell on the battlefield.

d : to suffer military capture after a long siege the city fell

e : to lose office the party fell from power

f : to suffer ruin, defeat, or failure the deal fell through

5 : to commit an immoral act but man willfully misused his God-given freedom and fell into sin— John Hick especially : to lose one's chastity

6a : to move or extend in a downward direction the land falls away to the east

b : subside, abate the wind is falling

c : to decline in quality, activity, or quantity production fell off

d : to lose weight —used with off or awayThe cattle have fallen off badly in the drought.

e : to assume a look of shame, disappointment, or dejection his face fell

f : to decline in financial value or price stocks fell sharply

7a : to occur at a certain time her birthday falls on a Monday this year

b : to come by chance a job that fell into his hands

c : to come or pass by lot, assignment, or inheritance : devolve it fell to him to break the news

d : to have a certain or proper position, place, or station the accent falls on the second syllable

8 : to come within the limits, scope, or jurisdiction of something this word falls into the class of verbs

9 : to pass suddenly and passively into a state of body or mind or a new state or condition fall asleep fall in love

10 : to set about heartily or actively fell to work

11 : strike, impinge music falling on the ear

transitive verb

: fell sense 1

fall all over oneself or fall over oneself or fall over backward

: to display great or excessive eagerness Fans were falling all over themselves trying to get the basketball star's autograph.

fall apart

1 : disintegrate The pie was falling apart as I served it.

2 : to succumb to mental or emotional stress : break down She began to fall apart when her son was imprisoned.

fall behind

1 : to lag behind The slower hikers fell behind the group.

2 : to be in arrears He fell behind in his car payments.

fall between two stools

: to fail because of inability to choose between or reconcile two alternative or conflicting courses of action

fall flat

: to produce no response or result the joke fell flat

fall for

1 : to fall in love with He fell for her the moment he saw her.

2 : to become a victim of fell for the trick

fall from grace

: to lose acceptance or good reputation The governor fell from grace when he was accused of tax fraud.

fall home

: to curve inward —used of the timbers or upper parts of a ship's side

fall into line

: to comply with a certain course of action The company fell into line with the new regulations.

fall on or fall upon

: to meet with fell on hard times

fall on one's face

: to fail utterly the movie fell on its face at the box office

fall on one's sword

: to sacrifice one's pride or position The coach fell on his sword apologizing for the team's poor season.

fall short

1 : to be deficient The expedition's supplies began to fall short.

2 : to fail to attain something (such as a goal or target) The results fell short of expectations.

FALL noun

Definition of fall (Entry 2 of 3)

1 : the act of falling by the force of gravity

2a : a falling out, off, or away : dropping the fall of leaves a fall of snow

b : the season when leaves fall from trees : autumn

c : a thing or quantity that falls or has fallen a fall of rock at the base of the cliff especially : one or more meteorites or their fragments that have fallen together

d(1) : birth

(2) : the quantity born —usually used of lambs

3a : a costume decoration of lace or thin fabric arranged to hang loosely and gracefully

b : a very wide turned-down collar worn in the 17th century

c : the part of a turnover collar from the crease to the outer edge

d : a wide front flap on trousers (such as those worn by sailors)

e : the freely hanging lower edge of the skirt of a coat

f : one of the three outer and often drooping segments of the flower of an iris — compare standard sense 8b

g : long hair overhanging the face of dogs of some breeds

h : a usually long straight portion of hair that is attached to a person's own hair

4 : a hoisting-tackle rope or chain especially : the part of it to which the power is applied

5a : loss of greatness : collapse the fall of the Roman Empire

b : the surrender or capture of a besieged place the fall of Troy

c : lapse or departure from innocence or goodness

d : loss of a woman's chastity

e : the blame for a failure or misdeed took the fall for the robbery

6a : the downward slope (as of a hill) : declivity

b : a precipitous descent of water : waterfall —usually used in plural but singular or plural in construction

c : a musical cadence

d : a falling-pitch intonation in speech

7 : a decrease in size, quantity, degree, or value

8a : the distance which something falls

b : inclination, pitch

9a : the act of felling something

b : the quantity of trees cut down

c(1) : an act of forcing a wrestler's shoulders to the mat for a specified time (such as one second)

(2) : a bout of wrestling

Now I do apologize for that long definition but, we must examine this word fall. Based on the definition of fall, it is not a good thing to fall. Some may say it’s just a figure of speech but you can continue to believe that if you choose to do so. One might say it’s just semantics, it means the same thing. I respectfully disagree. You KNOW what fall means and by you agreeing that you fell in love, you’re subconsciously telling yourself that all will be well forever because my partner will never hurt me, they are IN LOVE with me. This is where many go wrong and suffer great pains. Those who have fell and were in love with their partner, when they experience a break up, the magnitude of the pain is crippling. You never thought they would do that to you. You trusted them. You were IN LOVE with them. They were IN LOVE with you. Then you'll hear things of this nature; " I love you, i'm just not in love with you." Like, what does that even mean? Some will have the mentality that “If I can’t be with you, life isn’t worth living” or “If I can’t be with you, nobody can be with you”. Unfortunately, this line of thinking is very dangerous and results in people committing suicide or murder. Here in the land of the living, life form changes. There is no such thing as one staying the same, it's literally impossible. Whether physically, every day you become older or spiritually, the way you think or operate will have slight changes. I will say from the spiritual aspect, the change can be so minute that you may not even realize you changed. THE ONLY ONE YOU SHOULD FALL AND BE IN LOVE WITH IS THE MOST HIGH ALMIGHTY GOD.

Malachi 3:6; “For I am the Lord, I change not;”. Unlike mankind, God does not change so you don’t have to worry about him leaving you. As a matter of fact, the closer to get to him, the closer he will get to you; James 4:8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.”

In the book of James, we are actually instructed to fall for God: James 4:10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up. Let’s grab the definition for humble yourselves:

Humble Yourselves G5013

From G5011; to depress; figuratively to humiliate (in condition or heart): - abase, bring low, humble (self).

G5011

Of uncertain derivation; depressed, that is, (figuratively) humiliated (in circumstances or disposition): - base, cast down, humble, of low degree (estate), lowly.

When you fall for God, he will raise you up. When you draw closer to God, he will come closer to you. Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t love your spouse, please understand what I'm saying here, I’m speaking about the idea or concept of you falling in love or being in love with them. Your spouse is not The Most High God. Unlike a relationship between a man and woman, where a spouse can change, God will never change his love he has for you. Please keep this in mind.